it's the small gestures that really mean anything. those little things that you hope your lover will understand without you telling them. big dramas can be sorted out. but those tiny expectatons can't be revealed. when they are it's too late and the damage can only increase. so what to choose? let dashed hopes create a growing distance between you and the one you love? or show your fragility and insecurity, risking their respect for you and making them feel suffocated by your now explicit demands? persuade oneself that it doesn't matter?